Origin of the Enneagram

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The Path to Conscious Love with the Enneagram

The Enneagram, an ancient system for understanding personality, has been gaining popularity in recent years for its ability to help us know ourselves better, understand our emotions and improve our relationships. In the interview “Conscious Love Through the Enneagram” conducted on the Wake Up platform, Ramiro Calle and Roberto Whyte explore how this approach can transform our relationships, leading us towards a more authentic and conscious love.

What is the Enneagram?

The Enneagram describes nine personality types, each with their own motivations, fears and desires. This model not only helps us to know ourselves better, but also to work on our automatic reactions to improve both personally and in our interactions with others. Calle and Whyte stress that the Enneagram is not only a tool for self-knowledge, but also a guide for conscious love, as it allows us to look beyond our habits and connect more deeply with our partner.

What is conscious love?

Conscious love means being deliberately present and committed in a relationship. It involves recognizing both our own and our partner’s limitations, but without letting ourselves be dragged down by them. Calle and Whyte point out that many times, relationships fall into unconscious patterns, where conflicts and misunderstandings are repeated over and over again. The key is to understand the “internal maps” that guide our behavior, which are often related to our personality type according to the Enneagram.

How can the Enneagram improve a couple’s relationship?

The main benefit of the Enneagram for relationships is self-knowledge. Calle and Whyte explain that by knowing our Enneagram type and that of our partner, we can better understand our motivations and our reactions during difficult times. Here are some examples mentioned in the interview:

• Type 2 (The Helper): This type tends to focus on the needs of others. In a relationship, they may feel frustrated if their desire to be needed is not recognized. The Enneagram helps them find a better balance, promoting more equitable relationships.

• Type 6 (The Loyal): People of this type tend to be very concerned with security and trust. As a couple, they can be cautious, which sometimes generates tensions due to their fears. The Enneagram helps them identify their concerns and become more confident in the relationship.

Vulnerability in conscious love

A key theme in the interview is the importance of vulnerability. According to Calle and Whyte, the Enneagram invites us to be vulnerable, to recognize our weaknesses and self-destructive patterns. In doing so, couples can approach each other with empathy and compassion, rather than criticism or judgment. The Enneagram reminds us that there are no “good” or “bad” people in a relationship, but rather individuals with different personalities who need understanding and support.

How to apply the Enneagram in your relationship?

1. Know your Enneagram type and your partner’s: The first step is to identify both your type and your partner’s type. This will allow you to better understand the automatic reactions of both of you and how they influence the relationship.

2. Practice self-observation: Calle and Whyte stress the importance of observing your own behavior patterns, especially in times of stress or conflict. The Enneagram is a tool that helps you identify when you are acting out of fear or a need for control, so that you can correct those behaviors.

3. Promotes conscious communication: The Enneagram facilitates deeper conversations with greater understanding between couples. By knowing your partner’s fears and desires, you can speak from empathy, rather than reacting impulsively.

Conclusion

In Wake Up’s interview with Ramiro Calle and Roberto Whyte, the Enneagram is presented as a powerful tool for cultivating conscious love. By understanding our personalities and those of our partners, we can build more balanced, healthy and mutually respectful relationships. The Enneagram not only guides us towards greater self-knowledge, but also invites us to be more vulnerable, compassionate and present in our love relationships.

This holistic approach to conscious love, as Calle and Whyte explain, has the potential to transform the way we relate to each other, allowing each person to grow on an individual level while strengthening the connection as a couple.